My lack of full confidence is shown by my urge to compare myself against Travis Bradberry's list of the habits of genuinely confident people. These six I do OK on:
- They speak with certainty
- They seek out small victories
- They exercise
- They take risks
- They aren’t afraid to be wrong
- They celebrate other people’s successes
But my insecurities show up in trying to impress other people. I don't let that get in the way of being my own person. (It would be quite hard for me psychologically not to be my own person even if I tried.) But I definitely
- Care about what others think of me
- Worry about whether I measure up
- Seek attention
- Talk too much
On talking too much, I have noticed that in addition to a high intercept on talking, I have an anomalously small negative elasticity of talking with respect to group size. Thus, the bigger the group, the higher the ratio of how much I talk compared to 1/n. I get the closest to talking a reasonable fraction of the time when I am talking to just one other person.
They say confession is good for the soul. We'll see.